Last night at my daughter’s basketball game, my 20-year-old son noticed the over-the-top attitude of some of the spectators.
They were yelling at the refs, making critical comments about players. He looked at me and said, “Didn’t you used to do that, Mom?”
Cringing, I nodded. Yep. that was me a few years back.
I remember yelling so loudly at a ref at an AAU (traveling club) basketball game, that he gave me a very angry warning.
Another time, I marched up to an announcer after a game and lambasted him for his biased comments during the football game.
And then there’s the time I approached a ref after the game and told him that was the worst job of refereeing I’d ever seen.
I am not particularly proud of these things. And when I see others doing it today, I realize just how ridiculous I looked.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for showing emotion at games. I still moan at mistakes and express controlled disgust at bad calls. And at my daughter’s playoff volleyball games, I was clapping vigorously for every point and cheering wildly when they won.
But I’ve realized there’s just some things you cannot change about your chlild’s game. So what’s the point of making an idiot of yourself over them?
- Can’t change the refs’ minds.
- Can’t change the score.
- Can’t change the way the coach subs in players.
- Can’t change the mistakes players make.
- Can’t change the cheap shots.
- And you can’t change the bad attitude of the opposing team.
But you can change:
- how your child perceives you from the game (are you embarrassing him?)
- and how you feel about yourself when you go home later. Maybe I shouldn’t have called the ref a blind idiot. (How is it, by the way, that we are so comfortable saying things to a person from 50 feet away that we would never say to his face?)
“Well, Mom,” my college son persisted at last night’s game, “Why don’t you do it anymore?”
“Hmmm…”I hesitated. “I think maybe I’ve matured.” I guess my kids are not the only ones who are still growing up.
Did you ever go a little balistic at your child’s game?