There’s a secret to building relationships with people. It’s also a parenting tip that can might just provide a lot of insight into your kids.
The secret to building relationships isn’t in the words you say, but in the questions you ask.
Justin Zoradi says in his post The Simple Step to Become a Remarkably Likable Person that the secret to getting people to like you more is to stop talking so much.
That’s a tough one for us parents. We feel compelled to instruct, lecture, impart wisdom, speak, speak, speak. And then talk some more.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t talk to our kids. I’m just saying we need to ask and listen more and talk less.
Of course, you don’t want to overdo it; sometimes I drive my kids crazy with my questions and I have to make myself stop. Even the skill of question asking can be abused.
But I have a feeling that most people err on the side of too few questions, rather than too many.
Imagine the understanding, the insight, the revelations we would have if we spent more time asking and really listening, rather than telling.
What do you think would happen if you were to start the habit of asking more questions and doing less talking?
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