Supporting kids sports and parental objectivity do not seem to go hand in hand. Sports parents are not objective observers. Let’s be honest about this, okay?
We think that our kid can do no–or very little–wrong. We insist that it’s not his fault the other team scored. And we blame the coach or other team members for something that just may have been our child’s fault.
My daughter played on a basketball team with a parent who made it her job to yell out from the bleachers at her daughter’s teammates when they dropped her passes or didn’t pass the ball to her when she was open. It was as if she couldn’t admit that her daughter could make a mistake on the court. It was always the teammate who was wrong, not her daughter.
I’m guessing you’ve met a few parents like that.
The flip side of that is that we over-critique and come down way too hard. We think the one mistake our kid made is the huge elephant on the field or court, when in reality, it’s only a fly on the end of the coach’s nose.
That’s why you’ll often witness the heartbreaking scene of a dad yelling at his kid during or after a game for a mistake on the field or court. The kid may be able to shake it off and move on, but Dad can’t.
Supporting Kids Sports: is objectivity possible for parents?
Either way–too hard or too soft–it’s nearly impossible for you as a sports parent to be objective when you watch your child play sports. And yet, in a way, it is.
How can you be objective, and yet still be subjective as a sports parent? Continue Reading.
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