Every child reaches the stage of why? somewhere around two or three years old. And I regret to inform you that it really never goes away. Teenagers ask why? for different reasons, perhaps, but with the same annoying intensity.
You may try to ignore the whys by changing the subject (when they are little) or exercising your parental authority (don’t ask me why, just do it!) when they are teenagers.
But why? is way more than just an annoying question your child asks to drive you crazy or to push against your authority.
When your child asks why? he’s given you a very important opportunity that he’s not even aware of; he’s allowing you to engage his heart.
And that is why, parents, you must never pass up an opportunity to answer when your child asks why?
Why WHY is Important for your Kids to Know
Parents have no problem focusing on the what and how of things. You tell them what to do: get good grades, clean your room, be a team player, and you may even tell them how to get good grades, clean their room, or be a team player.
But if your child knows why it’s important to get good grades, clean his room, and be a team player, you’ve given him a tool that will empower him to give his best even when you’re not there to tell him what and how to do things.
When your children are at school, practice, or a friend’s house, it’s not the what or how of your rules that will help them make good choices. The only thing that will do that is the why?
The why will help your 3-year-old know that the sky is blue because molecules in the air scatter blue light from the sun more than they scatter red light, or more simply said: red and blue lights bounce off the sun, and the blue lights won (Yes, I had to look that up and you may have to look up the answer too, but hey, that’s what smart phones are for and besides, look what I just learned!) Of course, if you wanted to simplify it even more, you could just say, “God made it that way” and wait until his is old enough to understand the science of it. But whatever you do, don’t ignore the question or tell him to stop asking questions.
The why will help your young teen know that drugs are bad because they impair his judgement and put poison into his body.
The why will help your high school junior know that good grades are important because they help him get into college.
The why will be there when you are not. The why will stick with him when the what and how get fuzzy.So the next time your child asks you “why?” give him an answer that will help him understand and engage his heart.
In this book, I answer, the WHAT, HOW and WHY of
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