What is the one thing that will make a difference for your child when faced with youth sports difficulties and loss?
I’ve been reading a book by John Maxwell called Sometimes You Win–Sometimes You Learn and he says that Hope is one of the most precious things we have in life. It inspires and motivates when all you want to do is give up.
When your child is faced with a coach who barely acknowledges him, a teammate who refuses to pass him the ball, or a season of bench-warming, Hope is the one thing that will keep him working, and motivate him to get out and try again next season.
Hope always has a future. It leans forward with expectation. It desires to plan for tomorrow. And that opens us up to greater possibilities.
How can you foster Hope in your child when he or she is faced with seemingly insurmountable circumstances? Maxwell suggests that Hope happens when you:
- Help your child to look for the lesson in defeat instead of just letting defeat overtake him.
- Show your child what can be done instead of what can’t.
- Point out to your child that problems, no matter how big or small, are opportunities.
- Encourage your child to look for the good instead of complaining about the bad.
- Help your child see the open door instead of focusing on the closed ones.
- Remind your child that failure can be a stepping stone to better things.
- Remember that Hope is a choice for you and your child to make.
Hope is in the DNA of men and women who learn from their losses. When times are tough, they choose hope, knowing that it will motivate them to lear and turn them from victims into victors. J. Maxwell.
It takes courage for your child to have Hope, and it takes courage for you as a parent to Hope with your child, but it is a choice that is always rewarded.