The Steelers are feeling it this morning.
Losing is not fun. Especially in such a big game.
Although I’m sure the fact that they get a humongous bonus, win or lose, helps dull the pain.
Every now and then, our kids have their own “super bowls”. Playoff games, arch rival meetings, championship games. Games that feel huge, which makes a loss even huge-er.
Let’s be honest, there’s really not a whole lot a sports parent can say to make his child feel better after a stinging loss. Any way you cut it, losing stinks. Especially in a “super bowl”.
Four-fifths of our family discussed this in the car ride home last Thursday after my daughter’s basketball team suffered a humiliating loss (I can’t even bear to mention the score). We concluded that there are just some phrases an athlete does not want to hear after he loses.
P.S. He may or may not express his disgust at your consoling attempts. However, he is probably thinking it.
1.” Good game!” Um…no it was NOT. In case you didn’t notice, we lost!
2.” Well, at least you had fun.” Really? You think it was fun working my butt off and still losing?
3.”It’s only a game.” Duh. Of course it’s only a game. So is Angry Birds, but I still wanna win!
4. “Well, at least you did your best.” Yeah, and obviously that wasn’t good enough!
5. “It’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game.” Don’t give me that clique. Maybe it shouldn’t matter, but it does.
6. “At least you played alot.” The responses to this one can vary from Yeah, I played alot because we were losing so bad, to Yeah, I played alot and obviously didn’t make a difference cuz we still lost!
Take it from a sports parent who has said some pretty ridiculous things after watching her child lose–sometimes it’s best to just say “I’m sorry”.
And then, shut up.
As parents, we need to remember that love and support are often best expressed in what we don’t say.