If you’ve seen the movie The Adjustment Bureau, you know that people in the film unknowingly lived life according to THE PLAN. “The Chairman” oversaw THE PLAN, sending his “adjusters” to work behind the scenes, assuring THE PLAN’s success.
Kinda hard to explain, but it boils down to this: the Chairman had a plan for humanity, and he didn’t want anyone messing with it.
I think parents are like that. If we are honest with ourselves, we raise our kids according to THE PLAN.
Every parent’s PLAN looks different.
Maybe yours is a child who excels in high school sports and earns a college scholarship.
Then goes on to graduate, find an upstanding job, marry a wonderful human being, have a few beautiful kids, and make you a happy grandparent.
But what happens when our kids don’t want to follow THE PLAN? They don’t want to play sports in college? Or they don’t want to play sports at all? Or they follow their music dream instead of attending college? Or they marry someone you don’t like?
Do we let them change THE PLAN we have set for their life? Or do we manipulate and control, trying to push THE PLAN on them?
As parents, it’s tough to let go of THE PLAN. But we must. What are the alternatives?