I get it. I’ve felt it many times over the past 17 years.
What I don’t get is what parents say to their kids in their frustration. Frustrated comments distract your kids from the game and humiliate them because they know you’re calling them out for doing something wrong:
WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?
WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?!?!?
Of course, you don’t really expect your athlete to stop and answer your question in the middle of the game, so why are you saying it? You do it because you are frustrated and need to vent. But here’s something it seems a lot of parents just don’t understand: your frustrated words will not help your athlete play better. Not one bit.
Positive and encouraging comments will do more to motivate your child’s perfomance. And that’s all you are really trying to do, isn’t it?