Sports parents, are you panning for gold? Or have you settled for playing in the mud?
It’s easy for sports parents to get bogged down in the “mud” of sports: worries about playing time, your child’s position, unfair treatment, coaching conflicts, annoying team parents–the list goes on and on.
But there’s gold nuggets in that mud and if you are not panning for it, you will miss it.
What are those gold nuggets?
- the great attitude your child shows even when he loses
- the pass your kid makes to the person who wins the game, instead of insisting he do it himself
- the respect your child has earned from her team mates
- the understanding your child shows even when he’s on the bench
- the way your child welcomes a new athlete to the team
I’m sure you can name more.
It’s just that sometimes we’re tired, and gold-digging is hard work. It’s easier to play in the mud.
Please listen to me. I have hindsight that is very 20/20. My kids are 18,21,& 24. One played four years of college softball; one is in his second year of college football and one is a freshman volleyball player. It’s a fun run, but the game does end.
The gold? It will never lose its value.
You NEED to be digging for gold. Here’s why:
1. Your investment will have a return. The money, time, and sleep you forfeit for your kids to participate in sports will not be just an exercise in keeping them busy.
2. You will smile more. You will lighten up because you will understand that the stuff that stresses most sports parents is really just mud; they are missing the gold.
3. You want your kids to grow into people that you actually like. If you let them learn and grow, the hard stuff they go through will crystalize into gold. And the result will make you oh-so-proud.
4. You won’t have a pan full of muddy regrets. Otherwise known as burnt bridges, bad tastes left in people’s mouths. I should have done this or said this or not said this. That is the kind of stuff that keeps you up at night and makes you wish there was a rewind on life.
5. You will find the gold in your own character. Contrary to popular belief, kids’ sports do not just develop character in your kids; they also develop character in YOU. If you let them. If you quit playing in the mud.
Chances are pretty likely that your child will not become a pro athlete. He may not even play in high school. Every athlete’s glory days will come to an end. Then what will be left?
Hopefully, it’s gold.