Do you have sports parenting worries?
I am a list person.
I make lists for: grocery shopping, daily chores, work projects, Christmas, house projects, authors I want to read, calendar events, expenses, songs to download–well, you get the idea.
I also have a worry list. And over the years, it has had a lot to do with my kids and their sports. Of course, I didn’t write it on paper; instead I needlessly rehearsed the items in my head, trying to figure out just how each worry would resolve itself.
The list looked kinda like this:
- Will my child make the team?
- Will my child like his coach?
- Will my kid get enough playing time to keep him happy?
- Will my kid feel good about her performance?
- Will my kid get along with her team mates?
- Will my high school athlete get a chance to play in college? (if they want to)
- Will my kid get hurt?
- CAN I AFFORD THIS???
See anything familiar in there?
Some days the list is longer than others. And some days,the worries are so stressful, my stomach is in knots. (That’s only very rarely, like before every football game when my son started as senior QB)
I like keeping lists; it helps me feel organized. But the sports parenting worry list was one list I decided I could live without. So with God’s help, every morning I tried to mentally write out my list, then tear it up, and throw it away. I gave my worry list to God and tried to trust Him to take care of each and every item on that list.
If you believe it God, then I encourage you to discuss your sports parenting worry list with Him. If you don’t, then at the very least, write out your list and tear it up as a reminder that your worrying will not resolve issues, solve problems or keep tough things from happening to your child.
I still had days when I forgot to tear it up and it stayed seared into my brain. But God told me how to handle it; it was in my hands to do it.
Don’t worry about anything; instead… Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.