Parenting is more about who you are than what you do.
I firmly believe that.
Of course, what you do does matter. It’s important to use good parenting techniques. Always good to evaluate your parenting strategies and habits.
But sometimes parents do all the right things, but are not being the right role model.
This hit me the other night when my husband and I went to a local high school basketball game and I was observing the high school kids.
Our kids are out of high school and as I observed the crowd, I thought, I’m so glad I don’t have to go back and do it all over again. How did our kids ever make it through the crazy mixed-up maze of adolescence and end up such positive young adults?
I know it wasn’t because we did everything right. Because we didn’t. We made lots of mistakes.
But I do believe it was because of who we are. Ted and I are sincere, open people, who try to live with integrity; we follow God in a very down-to-earth way. We are not perfect; we don’t pretend to be. We admit our failings and trust God to give us daily wisdom.
So before you beat yourself up for not doing everything right, focus on being the person you want your child to be.
“The way your children turn out does not depend on what you do, but rather on what you are.” Luanne Shackleford (A Survivor’s Guide to Home Schooling)