Has your child asked you to change your parenting behavior?
One sports parent asks:
My child has asked me not to do certain things at a game, even before or after a game because it embarrasses her. As her parent, do I not have the right to parent the way I see best? Should I listen to my child?
You should always listen to your child. Always.
And then you should ask yourself if her request is valid.
Are you being rude? Critical? Pushy? Are you distracting your child from her game? Are you trying to coach your child when they don’t want or need it?
If you can say no to all the above–if so, then you are probably doing a good job at being a sports parent–do you still do as your child requests?
As long as your child is not asking you to do something that goes against your parenting values and the values you want to instill in your child, then doing as she asks is okay.
Sometimes it’s just a matter of the different ways people deal with competition. Your child may face things one way; you may face it another. You may want to hug and console her after a loss; she might prefer being left alone.
When it boils down to things that don’t go against your values, respect the wishes of your child. This assures her that her opinions and feelings are important. And remember, youth sports are for her, not you.
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