Do you think kids should be taught that everyone wins?
I had a parent pose this question to me:
Do you think there is a long term cost for the “everybody wins” point of view so many put on kids’ sports these days?
I know what I think, but I can also see two sides of the coin. I’ve had my kids be on teams where everyone received a trophy, and I’ve also seen them throw those trophies aside because my young athletes felt they were meaningless.
Pros for Everyone Wins:
- kids feel valued
- could help build kids’ self esteem
- kids might have more “fun”
Cons for Everyone Wins:
- kids don’t appreciate the value of working hard for a win and actually earning it
- kids will think that life will always give them “wins”
- kids won’t learn how to handle defeat in sports and in life
What do you think?
Is there a time and/or place for the everyone-wins philosophy in youth sports?
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