Supportive sports parents don’t all act the same. Some are very loud; some are silent observers in the bleachers. Some volunteer for everything; others only help when they can.
You are as individual as your kids.
And have you noticed that sometimes moms and dads do sports parenting differently too?
US Water Polo’s Tumua Anae shares how each her mom and dad support her in their own unique way.
The simple fact is that moms and dads may do their sports parenting jobs differently.
In our family, I was the worrier, the what-iffer, the one who would vent my frustrations to my husband when my kid sat on the bench too long. He was the one who saw it more from the coach’s standpoint and was way more willing to let our kids tough it out than I was.
There were times when the kids wanted to talk to their father rather than me about a sports issue because they knew he would stay calmer and be more objective.
When they wanted more sympathy, they came to me.
Supportive Sports Parents: differences are okay
Do you see a difference in how mom and dad do sports parenting?
If so, here’s how to handle the differences:
- accept your role (i.e. I was the sympathizer; Dad was the “coach”)
- it’s okay if your kids go to different parents for different needs (Dad gave more solid sports advice)
- make the most of your differences (be glad that you both offer unique perspectives to your child and can balance each other out)
- don’t be judgmental if your spouse’s responses are different than yours; seek to understand where they are coming from
How about your family? What differences have you seen in the way mom and dad are supportive sports parents?
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