Raising children is a monumental job, one that, quite honestly, is more effective if you don’t try to do it all by yourself.
Part of a parent’s job, I believe, it to surround your kids with other adults that will be good role models who will pour something positive into their lives.
My husband I recognized that raising children was a job requiring assistance, so we sought to bring other people into our kids’ lives that we knew would be great influences on them.
Older cousins, aunts and uncles, family friends, youth leaders, teachers, coaches.
Author and speaker Bruce Feiler recognized this need for other adults in his daughters’ lives when he was diagnosed with cancer. His story was aired on CNN in 2010 and I recently heard about it. I was touched that he was so intentional about finding other “dads” to pour into his daughters should something happen to him.
What do you think about what Bruce did? Would you be able to name five men or women to pour into your children should something happen to you? Probing question, I believe.
Raising Children: a job which should not be done alone
Our kids are grown now–they’re 20,23, and 26–but even so our job of being parents is not over. They still come to us for advice and we still have many opportunities to speak into their lives. But once again, I’m very grateful for other positive adults and friends who pour into them as well. It’s almost as if my husband and I are not carrying the burden alone. We know we have people on our side who love our kids and want the best for them almost as much as we do.
I remember when Hillary Clinton claimed in 2007 that “It takes a village to raise a child.” A lot of people criticized her remark, claiming that she was advocating that the government should be more involved in raising families. I’m not sure exactly what her intentions were with that remark, but I believe there is a lot of truth in what she said.
Sure, we could all isolate our families and do an okay job of raising our kids. But having positive people around us to help, cheer us on, pray for us, love on our kids, and speak truth into them is not only healthy for our kids, it helps us be better parents.
The question is, do you have those kind of people in your life that you would proudly ask to be “dads for your daughters”?
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