Year-end evaluations are common in business, but why would you do one as a sports parent?
As sports parents, it’s easy to scramble through the busy-ness of your lives without much thought to how you are living it. You get into survival mode and forget that the journey you are on is as important–if not more important–than the destination.
I challenge you, as we end 2013, to take a few minutes and consider just how well your sports parenting journey is going.
Year-end Evaluation: How was the 2013 Journey?
Question 1: What did you want your child accomplish this past year in youth sports and did he achieve that?
- If he did not, does part of the blame rest on you? Were you too pushy? Too absent? Too protective?
- If he did, what were the reasons why? Perhaps you backed off and let coach be coach, or you determined to stay positive and encouraging instead of negative and nagging.
I think we as sports parents need to be honest with ourselves about this one fact: We can make or break our kids’ youth sports experiences. Our attitudes will largely influence whether our child has a good youth sports experience or not.
In some cases, the blame may rest on a negative coach or bad team situation. If that is true for you and your child is young, perhaps it’s time to move on. If your child is older, this is an opportunity for you to help him learn some valuable character growth lessons.
Question 2: What did YOU want to accomplish this past year as a sports parent and did you achieve that?
Was it your goal to be at every game or event? Serve as team parent or be a dedicated volunteer? Or perhaps it was your goal to back off and let coach do his job without your interference. As you look back over the year, how did you do in achieving that goal?
Question 3: What did you learn and how have you changed?
I think this is probably the most important question of all. You see, you are going to make mistakes as a sports parent. We all do. But those mistakes can be learning experiences if you let them. Those mistakes can change you if you are willing.
Every time I made a mistake with my kids, I so wished I could do a rewind and take back a word or action. Instead, each mistake made me more aware of that area of weakness and more determined to become a better sports parent moving forward.
The purpose of a year-end evaluation is not to make you feel guilty for where you have failed. It is to help you think about what you’ve done right, what you’ve done wrong, and how you can do better as you journey into 2014.
“The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same.
Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination.” -Don Williams Jr.
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