Although competition is a healthy and necessary part of youth sports, there is one very important fact that many parents, players, and coaches seem to forget: it should stay on the field–or court, or pool or green, or mat.
Some people are competitive by nature–I get that, I live with four of them–but that does not mean that you or your child must look at everything as if it were a competition. That type of thinking leads to an us vs. them mentality, which eventually leads to conflict.
You vs. the coach
Your child vs. the coach
Your child vs. another teammate
You vs. another parent
This us vs. them mentality divides teams, families, and friends. It is not what youth sports should be about. Here’s a few suggestions I wrote for Coachup on how to keep it at bay.
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