Have you seen your child get embarrassed in sports? No athlete enjoys that feeling, and when your child faces situations where he feels embarrassed, he may want to quit or go hide in a corner.
My youngest daughter was embarrassed after one particular volleyball tournament match and we had to look all over the school campus to find her sitting by herself, mulling over the humiliation she felt.
As parents, our instinct is to shield our child from embarrassment. But that is not always the best thing to do.
In February, NBC aired a show called How to Raise An Olympian, where they interviewed several Olympic athletes and their parents about what it was like to raise up a champion. There were so many great ideas in this special and I took a ton of notes, so every now and then I will be writing about something from that show.
Mikaela Shiffrin, gold medal skier, talked about being embarrassed as an athlete and she summed up pretty powerfully why it’s okay for your child to be embarrassed in youth sports: If you’re gonna be successful at anything, you’re gonna embarrass yourself along the way.
How many times did Mikaela fall? Probably way too many to count. How many days did she feel humiliated and want to quit? Probably more than she can remember. In order to be a skiing champion, she had to learn that “It’s okay to fall” and in order to win the gold, she had to understand that “It’s okay not to win.”
Are you willing to stand back and let your child suffer the embarrassment it will take to make him the best he can be?
Do you want your child to learn life-shaping lessons as he plays sports?
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