On every team, in every league, there are sports parents who just don’t get it. They are clueless to the true and lasting value of the youth sports experience.
What drives a parent to this mindset?
I believe there are a few reasons that sports parents may not see the clear picture.
- They are too wrapped up in wanting their child to succeed, look good, get a college scholarship, without really considering what their child wants. Whether a parent is pushing a child to achieve what they achieved or perhaps what they did not achieve, the fact remains that it is the parent’s dream, not the child’s.
- Parents are often blinded by love. Sometimes that is a good thing. Love is supposed to overlook a lot of mistakes and weaknesses, but when it comes to your kids and youth sports, being blind to reality is not a good thing. Your child may not be as skilled as you seem to think he is. And that’s okay; he should never stop trying if he wants to play, but you may have to accept the fact that he is not going to excel like you want him to.
- Many parents have adopted the philosophy that it is their job to pave the way for their child’s success. This causes them to step in and fight battles that the child should be fighting for himself. As a parent, it is not your responsibility to make life easy for your child; it’s your job to prepare him for when life is not easy.
Sports Parents Who Don’t Get It Need You
If you can admit that you are a sports parent who doesn’t get it, then I congratulate you for even reading this post! You are definitely making a step in the right direction by being willing to listen to a positive alternative.
If you know sports parents who don’t get it, then the best way to help them is to be a positive sports parenting voice in the youth sports culture. You can make a difference, one person, one conversation, one comment at a time. Sports parents who don’t get it need YOU to step up and be part of the positive sports parenting tribe and hopefully they will follow your lead.
Do you want your child to learn life-shaping lessons as he plays sports?
If so, you are part of the Positive Sports Parenting Tribe!
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