Youth sports challenges are a never-ending fact of life for an athlete. And in order for your child to get the most out of his experiences–by getting the most I mean that he grows in character and in strength–he needs to be running in circles.
Let me explain. There is a sort of circular pattern to problems and our response to them.
That circle looks like this:
You get on the circle as soon as Adversity hits.
Adversity is when your child doesn’t get the playing time he wants, doesn’t get along with teammates, doesn’t play the position she prefers, feels like the coach dislikes him, gets injured–I’m sure you can add to the list.
The result of adversity if you don’t bail your child out or smooth the path in front of him will lead you to the second part of the circle which is tenacity.
Tenacity will keep your child from giving up, it will help him work hard to get what he wants. Tenacity is when your emotional and mental muscles grow strong.
And tenacity results in the third piece of the circle: strong character.
Strong character growth takes time; it’s a process. It’s slow, often painful and you may go a long time without seeing much improvement. But believe me, if your child is going through adversity and you are helping him walk through it instead of rescuing him from it, he is developing strong character and sooner or later it will start to show.
Strong character eventually produces the fourth piece of that circle: Hope. Hope shows itself in your child when he exhibits confidence, endurance, optimism, and ambition.
And then what happens? That Hope will keep your child going when more adversity comes his way, which will result in more tenacity, which results in strong character which produces hope, which will then help when the next wave of adversity comes along, and so on and so on.
That’s the never-ending circle your child needs to be on to get the full benefit of his youth sports experience.
It’s actually a circle we all need to be on.
It’s coming in 5 Days! Are you Signed Up?
Are You Frustrated with the Politics of Youth Sports?
The issue of politics in youth sports can take all the fun out of the game – if you let it!
I know – my years of sports parenting experience have given me ample opportunity to get sucked into all the games and drama that go on behind the scenes.
I have hope to offer: You CAN navigate these treacherous waters successfully – I can show you how.