Accepting change is never easy. It’s natural for humans to look for faults in others and minimize our own. Kids do this in sports too but that is not going to help them improve.
If your child wants to see positive change, he must quit looking for others to throw better passes or pitch better balls, hemust instead become a better player himself.
In life, if you want more, you must become more, says author John Maxwell in his book Sometimes You Win–Sometimes You Learn. And he adds that if changing yourself seems overwhelming, then start small.
Your child needs to learn that trying to change others is futile. No one can change another person. Your child will not be able to change the coach, his teammates, the officials, or the other sports parents.
If your child things he needs to change others in order for his circumstances to improve, he will be extremely disappointed. The more your child tries to change others, the less he will be focusing on things that he cannot control and will be ignoring the things he can.
What’s the solution?
Let your child see that the best way to change a frustrating situation–a frustrating teammate, a coach who ignores him, not enough playing time–is to change his own attitude. That is completely within his control. Maxwell explains:
In controlling my own attitude and choosing to think correctly, I can minimize the negative effects of those around me who have bad attitudes. I can stop taking it personally when someone in my life won’t change. I can see opportunities where I once saw obstacles. And the best news is that, as author and speaker Wayne Dyer says, “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at actually begin to change.”
Accepting Change that begins with ME
Change is hard for many–adults and children. But this is a conversation that will help your kids learn to focus on what they can do, instead of stressing about what others are doing. You child may need to learn the very hard lesson that if they want to change their situation, it very well could be that it must begin with ME. And it’s okay that change comes in small doses; it certainly doesn’t need to happen all at once.
Baby steps. Little victories. That’s the change that will truly last.
Are You Frustrated with the Politics of Youth Sports?
The issue of politics in youth sports can take all the fun out of the game – if you let it!
I know – my years of sports parenting experience have given me ample opportunity to get sucked into all the games and drama that go on behind the scenes.
I have hope to offer: You CAN navigate these treacherous waters successfully – I can show you how.
Navigating the Politics Of Youth Sports
This podcast is packed full of very insightful information that will help you manage the mess of youth sports politics. My co-host Craig Haworth, a coach, dad, and podcaster, and I talk about ways you can navigate the politics and a glimpse into the way coaches may be thinking. It was good stuff!
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